Out of all the people you've been out with

Just one person.

from the moment we spoke I was totally smitten.

When she came over and spoke to me "BLAM" I was gone.

now had I been about 12 or somthing, that would have been cool, but seeing as I was 34 it was game over for me there and then.

and any one who's seen the movie "Chasing Amy" and remembers where "silent Bob" actually speaks in a diner, he talks of an Amy..... will get the gist.

[Ed]

Originally Posted by amymars

I would never ever date anyone again who I didnt really like!
I would only ever consider dating somebody who I really thought I could 'end up' with.
Being understood, being able to know each other deep deep down is the most important thing..........whilst music is important......Im not gonna reject the love of my life because he likes heavy metal and I like house! hehe. If you can find somebody who 'gets' you, and who shares similar tastes to you, then you're onto a winner

Dude, there's no way I could do 'heavy metal'!
Know what you mean tho.

[Miss C]

Originally Posted by Ed

I had never heard of Michael Newton before, but how very interesting... I've always quite fancied a go at that. Most of the Buddhist/yoga texts talk of spontaneous past life memories in deep states of meditation, and I can vividly remember a couple of dreams I had before I became interested in such things that I can't really explain.

How about meeting people in this life to resolve relationship issues you had in past ones?!

Now that is what I call a mind fuck!

He's the author of 'Journey of Souls' and 'Destiny of Souls', the latter i'm reading at the moment, his research is amazing, theres too much stuff to go into, but its so interesting, it might help answer some of your questions if you ever get chance to read either book, it does include explanations for dreams/relationship karma that you've mentioned, and much much more stuff.

Deepak Chopra's work is good too boffin head

[Ed]

Originally Posted by Miss C

He's the author of 'Journey of Souls' and 'Destiny of Souls', the latter i'm reading at the moment, his research is amazing, theres too much stuff to go into, but its so interesting, it might help answer some of your questions if you ever get chance to read either book, it does include explanations for dreams/relationship karma that you've mentioned, and much much more stuff.

Deepak Chopra's work is good too boffin head

I just ordered one of his books lol. And sent an e mail to one of his offices in London. I fancy some of that. I've read a bit of Deepak.
We'll have to talk about how you balance you interests in the esoteric with working in law You'll be on your own I tell you, most of them are into having a BM and shagging!
I'll give ya a Zen, reading list if you aren't careful, Northern minx says I'm like her librarian.....

[Miss C]

Originally Posted by amymars

I'm very picky and I'm glad about it. Nobody is perfect but I at least want somebody who understands me on a deeper level. Fuck superficial things like music tastes, dress sense - all I am arsed about is that somebody has the same life goals as me. Wants a family, marriage, nice house, good job etc. Somebody that knows when Im up or down, and can see my perspective on things. They dont even have to agree with me! Just that they can understand.
.

Thats good that stuff doesn't bother you, leaves you with more choice doesn't it. But I wouldn't say music tastes and dress sense are exactly superficial, since both are an expression of who you are aren't they? All part of your character, and if someone is going to understand you, its likely that they will understand you better if they are more similar to you in such ways, isn't it??? Even food tastes, if I was to turn up on a blind date and find the guy dressed in gothic clothes with full make up, with Limp Bizkit pumping out of his walkman and he took McDonalds for lunch, I think i'd be fairly safe in the assumption that he probably wasn't the type of person i'd mesh in that way with, especially not in a sexual way, without even speaking to him. Although never say never I suppose, you do get some random red herrings.

[Miss C]

Originally Posted by Ed

I just ordered one of his books lol. And sent an e mail to one of his offices in London. I fancy some of that. I've read a bit of Deepak.
We'll have to talk about how you balance you interests in the esoteric with working in law You'll be on your own I tell you, most of them are into having a BM and shagging!
I'll give ya a Zen, reading list if you aren't careful, Northern minx says I'm like her librarian.....

Lolol tell me about it. Theres not much spirtitual about copyrights and patents, or the people who find them interesting . I cringe at the dryness of the conversations I listen to. zzzzzZZZZZZ.

I'm all for a bit of Zen

Its probably law that turned us spiritual lolol, we need something else to turn to otherwise we'd dry up and crumble lolol.

[northern minx]

Originally Posted by Ed

I have more faith in the tao and the universe than I do in meeting the right girl. Hmmm, will have to have a look at that.

There is no reason why they should be any different.

yes there is

[northern minx]

Originally Posted by Ed

How about meeting people in this life to resolve relationship issues you had in past ones?!

[Ed]

Originally Posted by northern minx

yes there is

Why?

Surely its part of the same thing?

[northern minx]

umm well if you click right away then i reckon its fairly easy to be right into someone from the start coz its new and there is so much to explore and find out about each other... its like landing in a fairground and experiencing all the magic and wonderment

its when the hard graft begins that i really struggle!
but i am working at that one!

relationships wether romantic or not are defo about growth and development for me
we each of us learn something from each other and share different things with different people and usually different aspects of ourselves with different people and a different times - its a rich tappestry - and tho sometimes painful its also a priviledge

and thankfully im still good friends with the majority of my ex's
so even tho the romance didnt work out - there is still alot to be shared and gained from the friendship aspect

[northern minx]

Originally Posted by Ed

Why?

Surely its part of the same thing?

indeed, but -

your personality self never has an agenda or an expectation on the tao/universe - it just trusts

[Ed]

Originally Posted by northern minx

indeed, but -

your personality self never has an agenda or an expectation on the tao/universe - it just trusts

So I'm right as usual

Maybe I just don't trust chicks-they are all mental

[li'l Sonz]

Originally Posted by amymars

Being understood, being able to know each other deep deep down is the most important thing.......... If you can find somebody who 'gets' you, and who shares similar tastes to you, then you're onto a winner

That's the only reason you should be with someone imo.... coz they understand you and even if they don't have the same view on somet they can respect the fact that you have different views and you can still get along! I think that most people have some similar tastes but not all. Obviously being polar opposites then it's prob not gona work but you don't have to be the same!!

"coz they understand you and even if they don't have the same view"

[Dj Britalian]

I was with a girl for about 5 years, just after i left school & started a job as a YT. She joined the company about 1 year after i started. We began seeing each other, for the first 2/3 years things were great, shortly after this period things began to get very stale indeed. You know when you just get into a rut & things become boring. A few more years later something happend which made us both realise that things were not getting any better so we split.

I sometimes think to myself that it may have been a waste of 5 years of my life but i suppose its all part of lifes learning curve

If was fookin horrible, i was miserable for about a year after it & thought that things would never be the same.

Well things changed & i am now happily hooked up wiv SJ & things are going great