Women....?!?

[Sully]

can anyone please explain to me how a womans mind works and how they manage to inflict such degrees of guilt and doubt when you have done absolutely nothing wrong (honestly - i've not)...... any help appreciated cos i've been trying to work it out for 15+ years on various samples and i'm none the wiser.....

[Amelie]

Well usually its because if you have not done something wrong, you have in the past and therefore we are still pissed about it (even though we have said its all forgotten), or because we know you are thinking of doing something wrong which is nearly as bad.

Jokes aside, its all down to trust- you just have to have it or its misery all round.

[Nemesis]

dont be too harsh on em m8, we're just as bad. just depends on the person's character, us guys r very capable of being complete dicks at times, so *shrug*

[Northern Star]

Ah see now Sully...the thing is........were we differ.........a woman will see an action as wrong where as a man will will see no harm in it......this is where the confusion lies. ..and it does work both ways...u up fer sharing wi us wot u are supposed to or dun......'supposed' bein the opperative word....lol.......then we ladies can be more accurate.......

u say u dun nowt wrong but if ur action has caused sum grief or upset to her then she is gonna see it as a wrong doin......this is y communication is the key...lol.....go on spill the beans.....

[RabbitCity]

Originally Posted by Amelie

Well usually its because if you have not done something wrong, you have in the past and therefore we are still pissed about it (even though we have said its all forgotten), or because we know you are thinking of doing something wrong which is nearly as bad.

Jokes aside, its all down to trust- you just have to have it or its misery all round.

LOL yeah thats well true a woman never forgets a thing......

['Shabba']

Originally Posted by Nemesis

dont be too harsh on em m8, we're just as bad. just depends on the person's character, us guys r very capable of being complete dicks at times, so *shrug*

I'm so glad ou said that, i get dead pissed off when people always go on "why do women alway..........balah, blah blah............."

We may have our our downsides but believe me, no more than any fella!!!!!!!!!

[cam]

Mate you could study a womans mind for billions of years and go no where. The womans mind should be considered the 8th Mistry of the world.

Beat this for female logic.

My X got into a fight with another of my X's in a pub and got throuwn out of the pub. I'm in the bath at the time at home and split up from both of them.

The X that got thrown out came round to my house, banging on the door, then when I opened it the started hitting me and kicking me and blamed me for her getting thrown out of the pub................. and why ?????? because If I hadnt ever gone out with her in the first place, they would never have started arguing and then they wouldnt have started fighing and then she wouldnt have got thrown out the pub.

I said to her that was bullshit its really my grans fault for shaging my grandad, creating my mum who in turn had me, if I wasnt alive then I wouldnt have gone out with her or you and then you would still be in the pub.

She actually thought about it then left me alone...................... fucking strange critters I'm telling ya !

[Sully]

i've done nout....!!

i had a session at weekend but nothing serious - plus she's currently away until this weekend so what was i supposed to.... - stay in...?!?

['Shabba']

Originally Posted by cam

Mate you could study a womans mind for billions of years and go no where. The womans mind should be considered the 8th Mistry of the world.

Beat this for female logic.

My X got into a fight with another of my X's in a pub and got throuwn out of the pub. I'm in the bath at the time at home and split up from both of them.

The X that got thrown out came round to my house, banging on the door, then when I opened it the started hitting me and kicking me and blamed me for her getting thrown out of the pub................. and why ?????? because If I hadnt ever gone out with her in the first place, they would never have started arguing and then they wouldnt have started fighing and then she wouldnt have got thrown out the pub.

I said to her that was bullshit its really my grans fault for shaging my grandad, creating my mum who in turn had me, if I wasnt alive then I wouldnt have gone out with her or you and then you would still be in the pub.

She actually thought about it then left me alone...................... fucking strange critters I'm telling ya !

I'm really not sure you've got any right to criticise women the way you treat them. Try looking at your own faults first eh.

[cam]

Originally Posted by Shabba

I'm really not sure you've got any right to criticise women the way you treat them. Try looking at your own faults first eh.

Im far from pefect and I know that very well.

However I fail to understand womens logic, it just doesnt make sense

['Shabba']

Originally Posted by cam

Im far from pefect and I know that very well.

However I fail to understand womens logic, it just doesnt make sense

I fail to understnd your logic, that doesn't make sense.

Ironic isn't it eh.

[cam]

Originally Posted by Shabba

I fail to understnd your logic, that doesn't make sense.

Ironic isn't it eh.

Sounds about right, your female

[northern minx]

Originally Posted by Shabba

I'm really not sure you've got any right to criticise women the way you treat them. Try looking at your own faults first eh.

well said shabba, il second that.

[cam]

and I thought I was perfect

oh well looks like I was wrong for a change

[northern minx]

Originally Posted by Sully

can anyone please explain to me how a womans mind works and how they manage to inflict such degrees of guilt and doubt when you have done absolutely nothing wrong (honestly - i've not)...... any help appreciated cos i've been trying to work it out for 15+ years on various samples and i'm none the wiser.....

tis difficult the whole men/women stuff but i shall try an answer yr question! lol

imho -
it is often hard for men and women to own their own shit (as i call it!) to be able to recognise wot is their own stuff and wot isnt
this causes huge problems and misunderstandings
if we can recognise our own shit then there is no need to put them onto someone else, and if we do, it is possible to admit thats what is happening and to discuss it
wen communication is open and honest (even if not wot u want to hear) it is easier to see wot yr own shit is and to then work on it
value is wot matters
even if both parties disagree, giving value to anothers feelings/point of view is so so important

regarding your pickle sully, i cud suggest that u work out whether the shit in this scenario is yours or hers! then work with that, value her opinion/feelings and ensure she does the same for u
then fingers n toes crossed it will all be fine


ps. loved the line.... 15+ years on various samples
pmsl!!!!