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Originally Posted by Ed  Yep true in a lot of cases, but not all. The 'not all' ones are the best people to have a relationship with, because they see the whole person, not just some saucy sexual fantasy or as a trophy on the arm/someone their mates will be impressed with. When I say whole person, I mean all the shit as well, the insecurity, the fear, all the stuff you hide most of the time. You'll be able to tell what a man wants from you first and foremost by what he says and how he acts. I think women instinctively sense this and can even fine tune it.
I guess you don't have to distinguish your feelings, you either have them or you don't. You can't make yourself flip out and feel crazy about someone, although I think you can warm to them to the point other aspects of them appear sexy, just in a different way. I personally like to feel so mad for someone it terrifies me, but that probably makes me some sort of pervert!
Yeah a lot of friendships turn into relationships, and a lot of sexual attractions turn in real loving friendships without ever losing the sexy thing. I read somewhere it isn't important to find the right person, more to be the right person. |
Yeh, theres no need to distinguish your feelings most of the time, people are already too caught up in analysing and labelling everything instead of just letting it flow. Though, for example, if you're in a relationship, it might be that there is more need for feelings for third parties/their feelings for you to be distinguishable, not that that is how it necessarily should be.
And yeah its weird that those different kinds of attraction both work, I had a boyfriend for 3 years who I didn't feel at all crazy about, he just grew on me and it worked really well. I definitely prefer a bit of stomach flippage mind plaiguing infatuation though.